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Name: Cindy Tan
Age: 21
University: HELP University College
Birthday: 3rd February 1985

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Tuesday, August 02, 2005


AsiaWorks Basic Training Graduation Night

My 'precious' certificate...



Wow... I have finally graduated from this training!!! What a dream! Below are some of the photos I have managed to capture during my graduation night with all my group members!

My group members and ME during the training

*The best photo of the night!*
My small group leader (and now my close friend), Noelle


Below are the account of the memories that I wanna keep close to my heart and in my heart forever!!!



See the little dove? was presented by my small group leader Noelle during the graduation night to me... It reminded me a lot of things... the freedom which I wanted to have... my dreams that is so far above... and this little dove is somewhat so pure and I felt the freedom everytime I see it!

Let me get started why I'm so happy and somewhat authentic after attending this training on the 29 July - 1st August 2005... There's so much to gain and nothing that I can regret...
My life- My dreams- My visions!

My open letter:

"Good morning Noelle!

First of all, thank you- thank you for your full support and your continuous encouragement for me to complete in this basic training.

Well, do you know how's my feeling like when I first get to know about this training from my NGO? I was full with enthusiasm and I kept on telling myself that no matter what happens, I want to make it for this training. Yeah, I have now completed it. What a dream! :) So, this
actually shows that I'm not an easily give up person.

I spent my whole night recalling those experiences I had during the training and it was extremely awesome and great! Oh ya, I did typed out every moment I spent during the training and how I actually responded and the value I have gotten at the end of this training in my personal file.

The first day of the training is scary and my heart was full of fear and the feeling was bad. Having said that, it was my first time to be honest with myself, in terms of my feelings, my thinking and the actions I take for every decisions I make. For the past 18 years, I never had the chance to experience and acknowlege my feelings and those traumatic experiences I had, neither sharing it with anyone but in this few days, I did and I'm proud of myself that I have taken the first move although it takes a lot of courage and risk for me to do that. During the first small group meeting, I felt so reluctant to share and I felt insecure in a way - what if I share. But finally, I quiten myself down and share what I feel as it was my choice to be part of this training.

The first evening itself has brought a lot of past memories to my mind and I was about to give up and leave the training room but I didn't. I was emotionally drained out that night itself. In fact, I didn't expect the next day was the continuous of what I have experienced that night. But I survived!

And today (Monday), after the chat on the phone with you, I have made that choice to choose and voted 1, that is I want to turn my back and leave that past experiences and I want to live in the NOW and PRESENT and move towards the future. Actually, It was a scary moment when the nightmares seemed so real and I felt so insecure and that has made me got up immediately at about 3 a.m. and just sat there on my bed and think for quite awhile although I kept on recalling what I have learnt and discover of who am I during the training.

By the way, do you know why I want to serve the community so much- to reach out and help out in any way I could? It was because I want to show love, care and concern for others as I knew the feelings how it would be like for someone who didn't get any love, care and concern from anyone in their life before.

In fact, I only started the 1st hug when I'm only in Form 2 and appreciate her for who she is (she = my form teacher). When I first started volunteering and going out with the Street Ministry Leader to visit those people who live by the roadside, the drugs rehabs and my
visit to the nursing homes and Jean's Home(old folks home), my heart just go out to all of them. Although I'm only there for a few times, I have made a great difference in their lives, especially to the people in the nursing homes and old folks home. Those people in there actually missed me a lot...

The 2nd community service was my 5 months special project in Special Children Society of Ampang (SCSA) early this year whereby I was a volunteer in the center itself once a week (due to my tight classes schedule at that time) to learn more about those special needs of those children and to my surprise, I am able to communicate so well with all of them, no matter what disabilities they have. Well, I would rather call them as special children and not disabled children as each and everyone of them is unique and have their very own special potential in their lives to create their dreams.

I could still remember what the experience like for being there with those children. The greatest experience was the power of love. In short, the only love I get to keep is the love that I give away. Not to forget, I always left with a feeling of hope, as if I had made a difference in the world. This world would be a better place if everyone would volunteer some of their time in their community, seeing that it can give one a sense of purpose, responsibility, and compassion for others.

All in all, within these few days, I learnt a lot and the feeling of being the real me is so wonderful! I'm a unique human being and I'm somebody! What a big diffference between a 'fake-self' and a
'true-self'. So, in my life right now, I want to move towards to achieve my goal and of course support is needed along the way.

Oh ya, before I forget... I have always been a perfectionist ever since I started my university life 2 years ago as I always wanted to prove to others that I can perform better than what they think, just like seeking approval from them (my parents) and also because I have wasted so much of my teenage life, living in the dark of not knowing who I am and hence, I didn't do that well during my secondary days. In other words, I actually gave up.

As a result, I became a perfectionist, striving for the best, to beat those top students in my classes and I would say that it was a big stress for me. My life for the past 2 years was about grades.. about 'As'... if I gotten lower than a B... to me, it represents a failure. Well, not sure what has got into me 2 month ago whereby I got a C+ for one of my subject for the first time in my uni life and I'm still satisfied as I take into account what has happenned a 2 months before
my exams (as so far grades were around A and B+)... My grandad was very sick 4 months before my mid term exams and he passed away a month before my final exams. I didn't even missed a day not visiting him in the hospital. I move on after that...

Still standing strong until today... and I could still remember when you asked me about what and why am I taking the course I am in right now.. Well, I told you that I want to be a clinical and counseling psychologist of the future... And the other alternative would be a social worker with a masters degree so that I can have my own private clinic in the states.

No one knows what is my dreams- my visions except you... It was my first time trusting a person like you and for your information, a lot of people (including the family members) asked me why ... why am I so silly and stupid to take up such a course as there are so many courses around.. I told them that no one could stop me from getting whatever I want to have... it's my future and I know how to take care of it. Well, i wouldn't deny that there's a lot of discouragements everywhere I go and I'm not too sure what you would think. The senior lecturer in my uni always said to me this, "You have so much experiences and
you have an intelligent brain too... you will be the best psychologist in the future if you persevere on". I think it is because of my determination to succeed in my dreams that is moving me forward. And after this training, i felt a sense of confidence, gladness and I really hope that I will never ever fall back... too concerned on this issue...

Oh, gosh... I'm not too sure why am I actually compiled such a long story here... think because of the training experiences and the events that have gone through in my life at this very minute is stirring up every sentences I made in this email... Wanted to delete some of them but what a waste after typing them while expressing them... I really hope you don't mind with my first long email...

Thank you for taking the time to read them... I appreciate it.

Cheers,
Cindy"

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Replied by Noelle (2005): "Dear Cindy!

Wow! Your mail is really inspiring. It really inspires me so much. Thank you so much for sharing with me and also trusting me.

The result shows that you actually can accomplish what you set out to do. Yes, you survived from the training! You completed the training, you emerge as your own true-self. I'm so glad that you make the choice to stay on. And what I can see is of you is that you are a very determined and strong-will person. It's really a dream come true that you completed this training. Really inspiring.

OH, MY GOODNESS!!!! Haha!! I can't believe it!!! Gosh! Guess what?? I didn't exactly spend the entire night recalling what I had experienced from this training, but an hour plus before I slept last night(at nearly 2am), i also recalled back what I had gone through, and those memories, I just wanna keep them forever. I started to type out whatever that comes to my mind.. I can't believe that you actually did that too! Haha!! Great minds think alike!

The time when you were the last to share in our small group, I actually started to wonder why. But when you started sharing, immediately I couldn't control my tears. When you shared, I could feel your hurt and pain, and the tears just streamed down. Did you realise that that moment was so powerful that it touches my heart.. when your heart is opened and you bare it and share it with us?

Actually I am so very proud of you, of the choices you make to go for what you really want and who you want to be.

Oh! You visited Jeans Home before? I went there several times before. It was really a great experience. This is one of the things that keep me inspired to go on with community service. One lady I met at Jeans Home. I am a quiet person don't really talk much. When I was there, this lady actually came up to me and said to me .. 'when you guys enter the room, the entire room seems to light up.. even if you all just sit there, the whole room brightens up.' I have always love to be with children, and also babies. When I hold a baby, i could feel the hope and also the authentic self of the baby, so pure, so authentic.. it gives me strength.

I believe in you. I believe you will be the best psychologist in the world bring the difference to people. You have so much love in you to give away and reach out to the others. I duno how to describe how happy I am to hear that you see the huge difference of a 'fake-self' and 'true-self' and your choice to be who you want to be, the real you!

Psychology course was something I wanted to do after my SPM. And discouragement from my mom so i chose the 2nd best option that I had. That's why I'm so inspired by your determination and iron will. And I believe you will achieve what you strive to do.

You'll not fall back, if you always focus on what you really want to do, and the values you get from the training. Whenever this consideration starts speaking louder, take it, throw on the floor and kick it away. I'll give you my full suppport.

Thank you so much for trusting me enough to share with me your visions. I'm so proud of you. U took a huge risk to take a giant big step for yourself to move forward.

Ops! I quite 'cheong hei' also..typed so long... so just bear with me!

p/s: Thank you so much for the lovely photos. I have set the one with all of our small group members in as my desktop wallpaper now.

Have a great day and continue to inspire people.... thank you so much for being in my space and also allowing me to be in your space to make the difference. I've learnt so much from you guys too, seriously. I'm not perfect.

I like this quote -*~Happiness is not in our circumstances, but in ourselves. It is not
something we see, like a rainbow, or feel, like the heat of a fire. Happiness is something we are.~*
Did you write it?

ok lah... keyboard off now... take good care and have a nice day!

Love,
Noelle"

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Another reply by Noelle (2005):
"Good Morning, Cindy!!

Hope you get enough sleep! Sleeping at 2 am... But I'm glad you didn't wait...there are things whereby when we waited just to say or do, the moment just passes by and lost.

What are the payoffs (benefits) you get when you decided to stop your piano lesson back then? You have never failed before~{!-~} what was your fear back then? Fear of failure? Fear of looking like a failure? Coz you have never failed before~{!-~}what if you fail? What beliefs you have about yourself that is holding you back from reaching out to what you want? Grungies like sadness and guilt will be there.. coz you gave up on something you could have achieved. How does that make u feel? no good? However, the good news is~{!-!-!-~}.. It~{!/~}s NOT TOO LATE, isn't it? ;) The most important thing is to realize what is next, rather than I had made a wrong choice before. Coz what u can do is stop, look, choose, vote then do it. Step to the left. Whenever the past is holding you back, u can step to the left again~{!-~}.stop, look at it, choose then vote! Then DO IT!!

I agree with you. It may be your comfort zone. And I wanna say too that those people around you, they are not wrong at all to say you have a lot of potentials in you and a born leader. I do experience you having so much potential in you. The people around you are also a reflection of yourself. People say things they see about you. If they don~{!/~}t see u as a potential person, they wouldn~{!/~}t have said that. And notice how many percentage of ppl saying the same thing about u? Notice the box you put yourself in by saying ~{!.~}no~{!/~} ? Do you realize what are the prices you are paying by limiting yourself? You hold yourself back from exploring and discovering more of what you are capable of doing. Imagine how much more you could have contributed to the people around you that u wanna help, u wanna reach out for, but you hold back? Imagine, if you take charge of your fear and step out of your comfort zone boldly~{!-~} how many more people you could have reached out to and help~{!-~}. Only the sky is the limit.

And I want to say this also, that I am not bold or exaggerating at all to say that you will make a very good leader in LP by you being your true self to experience being a true leader. There is common vision to achieve..and I can already picture you leading the LP to achieve that common vision. Becoz you already have what it takes and u know what to do while the rest may not know what to do. And one of the best thing about LP is you get all the support that you need in order to achieve your results, they support you all the way and at times they will also kick ur a** if needed in order for you not to fall back to your backdoors. Hehe! The bond is so strong that it has a lasting memory.

=) I can see that you are making a stand for yourself when u said 'NO WAY' to the others. Haha!! Right, and I agree.. If you want spectacular results, go create it! And not wait for it to fall from the sky. And remember the Intention Walk we did in the training? There are 1001 ways to get across the room, and the intention is just 1, only ONE! As long as this is your intention, you know by hook or by crook, you gonna get it. Cindy, you have great dreams~{!-~} great goals to reach out to. Some people are wandering about in their lives, seeking for what they want. Here you are, knowing exactly what you want. The saddest thing is some ppl live but not sure that they want to live. Like a zombie. While u, u want it so badly..so passionately of wanting to live. Right!!! That's the way~{!-~} Glad that the song has an impact on you. I'll go search up that song too..

Ops?!! Get stuck?? On what? I actually see that you are very clear of what you want in life.

Thanks for helping out on cutting the love messages. Coz I~{!/~}ll be going home late tonight and exhausted. Thanks! ;)

Hmm.... i started off this mail in the morn... now i'm ending it with good evening..it's almost 2pm already!

Ok! Have a nice day!!

Yeah..tomorrow i pick u up at 730am, k?

Love,

Noelle"

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Well, the precious moments during this training would not be account in here as it is mainly confidential becauseit was part of the training process and it's also part of the ground rules which I have agreed upon the training. I would like to apologize for this... and hope you guys will take the opportunity to attend such training in the future if you're given the chance to do so! Go ahead and believe in yourself!! Trust your instincts! Trust yourself! Be yourself! You're who you are!!! Love yourself and be responsible in every aspects of your life! That is all I can say for now! ;) Not to forget, this event that has taken place in the training is the most precious and happiest memories I ever had in my lifetime!!! :) I just wanna keep those memories forever!!!! Gonna go for the advanced training soon... still considering... :)
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